Why are people selfish?

What is selfishness?  And what are the reasons for selfishness?  How to deal with feelings like selfishness?

The greatest principle of this world is "humanity". Humanity is about emotions such as compassion, mutual unity, and feeling for one another. Every human being has the right to love himself. The first right of every human being is his own. But hurting others for your own comfort, or not helping others even though you have the money, and hurting others for your own happiness is called "selfishness."

Man must be "selfish" to a certain extent that he thinks of himself and prefers his honor and dignity, rather than making himself a toy in the hands of vested interests.

In today's turbulent times, human beings are only interested in getting better and getting ahead of each other. Rising crime and apathy in society have enslaved human beings to their emotions and desires. And because of this, people seem to struggle to fulfill their desires and satisfy their emotions, instead of realizing each other.

To survive in the jungle, one has to fight for his own survival. According to the law of the jungle, only the strong have the right to live. Not all the animals of the forest can live with each other with mutual equality because there the death of one is the life of the other. But according to the law of the jungle, it is not selfishness but a struggle for survival. 

In human society, attempts to push one another backward are a low degree of selfishness. The rising crime of murder, and sabotage in our society, is not our quest for survival or our attempt to survive, but for the sake of satisfying our ego, people become selfish and snatch peace and property from others.

There are many examples of selfishness in this world, but is an innately selfish or do the difficulties of the times or the never-ending problems make him selfish? With these few questions, there are many other questions such as, why did man suffer from this disease?

The relationship between selfishness and man is very old. In every age, there have been many selfish people whose selfishness has proved fatal to others, but today's materialistic age has given far more opportunities to nurture this epidemic of selfishness.

Why is a man suffering from this disease so much today? In the quest to get out of the inferiority complex, man does not shy away from trampling on each other. When traveling by bus or train, everyone tries to make a big space for themselves, and is not ashamed to push the others, wants to be number one, ignoring the people standing in line for hours, everything is ignored while parking the car, polite people are treated rudely, why does all this happen in everyday life? 

When every person in the world behaves as if (me) or only I have the right to it, instead of "you first", the consequences will be negative, and those who adopt such behavior will be called selfish. Selfishness is found in almost every human being in the world, and there is no lack of feeling in every human being, but he does not try to feel his own feelings and spends his whole life trying to solve "his problems" first, even rest of the world go to hell.

According to Dr. Bayer, a German researcher on health, the sixth sense plays an important role in every human being, both mentally and emotionally, and it is the sense that is the slave to his needs and desires. Many people get depressed even over trivial things, and many people are so selfish and insensitive that they close their eyes even when they see oppression happening in front of their eyes. You can't call such people sick or addicted, but they have a congenital lack of sense, which can affect other people. 

According to our basic treatment and practice, the person who has the feeling is the one who feels the pain and suffering of others, because mutual reflection, tolerance, and peace is their principle. In medical language, it is called healthy feeling. Such people try to meet the needs of others because of this feeling, even if they hurt themselves.

A selfish person can never understand the world because if you talk to him about his irrational behavior, the only answer is that you do not want to harm him personally, or you have misunderstood, and so on. Another question is whether a man is inherently selfish. 

Various speculations have been made that man is naturally selfish, and that the hatred within him may provoke him to harm others unnecessarily. Many people say that selfishness is in the human gene because selfishness has become a "belief in life" for the fulfillment of life's pleasures and desires, everyone wants superiority over each other. Experts in brain and sociology say that man is not inherently or innately selfish, but sympathetic and operative. 

According to American Professor Kettles, man's greatest weakness is his thinking, and it is his thinking that makes him successful and unsuccessful. How he sees, examines, and accepts the world. With this in mind, he decides on temporary events. If the thinking is positive then the feeling will be created, otherwise, the poisonous waves of selfishness will grip other people along with it. The professor says that feeling makes a person happy, and moral and standard discourse plays a positive role in the personality of every human being.

How to turn selfishness into piety?

A person can better understand his feelings in any kind of situation.  And according to common sense, every human being can feel the difference between both positive and negative feelings and emotions.  All that is needed is for man to learn "self-control."

Because if we start following our vain desires, we will surely try to remove every obstacle that comes our way, and that is why we will cause trouble to ourselves and many other people. 

Man must take the path of moderation between his desires and endeavors. And he must continue his efforts without harming others. And he should not try to divert others from his path to achieve his desires quickly. Each person has his own unique identity and own place in society. If we accept each other's place, we will certainly be able to avoid negative emotions such as selfishness.

Man must be sincere with himself as well as with others. Piousness is the middle ground that teaches man gratitude and compassion and keeps man within moral limits, which is why man never breaks his moral boundaries, and is not affected by any immoral emotion.

How to deal with selfishness?

People who are naturally lacking in feelings, or people who are just worried about themselves, should pay attention to the following

* You should expand your heart. So that you can have a place in your heart for others. People with narrow hearts are left alone at the end of their lives.

* While trying to achieve your desires, take a good look at whether your efforts are not harming anyone else.

* Be thankful for the blessings you have. Look at those who live in worse situations than you, instead of those who live better than you. This will create feelings of compassion and gratitude in your heart.

* Think of your life as a temporary journey, worry about your death. Don't hurt others by trying to raise more money.

Conclusion

Selfishness, whether hereditary or natural, or whether it came into being under the influence of circumstances and events, is reprehensible in every way.

Yes, selfishness is true when you are a highly sensitive person. Because sometimes overly emotional people completely ignore themselves for the happiness and comfort of others, which is why other people start taking advantage of them.

All human beings in this world are equal. If one person is an expert in something special, the other person will be an expert in something else. We should think of others as we expect ourselves to be. 

In a society based on the principle of equality, people move forward by supporting each other, rather than pushing each other backward.

We must all work together to build such a society by promoting equality. And we should try not to let selfish feelings grow in our hearts and minds.